Cheaters

In an Ebony article, experts estimated that nearly 75 percent of married men, or men invloved in serious relationships, cheat. Cheating has become so common that whenever I hear someone say "He cheated on me," or "She cheated on me," the only thing I can really say is, "Oh for real? Thet's so sad." I cant even get surprised anymore because people do it so much, especially now, that unfortunatley, it's becoming a norm in our society.

The latest news with Tiger Woods, had a successful life as an accomplished golf player with a beautiful wife and kids waiting for him at home, was outshined by the undercover world with over ten mistresses. The only thing that shocked me within this predicament was that amount of woman that gladly came out to say they slept with him without any shame at all, and even professed their love for him on national television. Are you serious?

While watching some poetry online, I came across a Def Poetry poet by the name of Thea Monyee and her poem "Woman to Woman," and I knew I just had to write about it. It was hilarious and educational at the same time, as she spoke to mainly all the "side chicks" out there that is sleeping around with someone elses man then gloating about it as she (side chick) talks about it to the other woman (original girlfriend).

Thea Monyee delivery was well done, as she kept the audience entertained to the point where even men clapped, laughed, and nodded their heads in agreement. As she speaks on how the side chick calls her house telling her what color man's unndergarments are, and how good he is in bed. Monyee replies by saying, the boxers he was wearing she bought them and how good he is in bed, she taught him. Within the Ebony article, it also speaks about why most men cheat, one expert stated that men cheat because they are frustrated over present relationship. The newness and excitement of a relationship soon wore -off and the male begans to feel like their partner is more critical on him, argumenative, and doesnt give him the attention he deserves. This is when he sneaks off to lurk for an undercover lover, which is pretty much what Monyee says,

"When he cant deal with me
He goes to you to get me off his mind
But it never works see,
He gets real still as he lays between the sheets,
As he's tuning you out and picturing me,
Cus you put up with that sh*t that I just wont deal with,
Cus I'm strong in who I am, and He loves that about me,
It's just sometimes he cant stand the reality that he doesnt deserve me,
And when he feels that way,
Well thats when he comes crawling to your dirty sheets."

Although this poem is directed to the "side chick," whom is definately at fault because she called gloating. But does that leave the man off the hook and gives him a liable reason for cheating? Does that make it ok for him to cheat, because the woamn understands why he did it? So many question came to mind after hearing this poem, and in my opinion, there is no Liable reason for cheating, and although society is somehow forming it into a norm because it is done so much, doesnt make it right.

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